We’ve all heard the advice, “fake it until you make it”. While the underlying message to this phrase is meant to be inspiring us to jump out of our comfort zones and take risks to achieve our “made it” definition I can’t help but argue that “faking it” is the wrong message. If your partner told you they were “faking it” then what should have been a pleasurable moment was actually an unfulfilling moment at someone else’s satisfaction. Why would you want to live a life – your life – in the same nature?
A fake life is not a true life. That happiness we are after, that peace we seek, that dream we make reality comes only when we are a sincere version of our best selves. Our outer reality is a physical representation of our inner reality. Only you can determine what is real for you, thus you are more powerful than you could even begin to recognize.
I challenge that we all stop faking it and instead embody and believe it.
To realize your own embodiment I’d like to leave you with a few “keepsakes”
A mentor of mine once told me to always be humble. He defined being humble as being able to learn from any person in any situation because the willingness to learn will result in knowledge and knowledge is power. The more we know, the more confident we become in speaking intelligently and the more confident we become the more opportunities we attract to continue growing.
“Work hard and dedicate yourself to being better every single day.” – Will Smith
Keep Good Company
I can’t emphasize enough how important real connections with individuals who want nothing but your happiness and success are. The humans in your life are a reflection of you. Establish authentic relationships and you will be rewarded with a tribe of like-minded people. Do not be intimidated by bank accounts or avatars that we create with titles and names. Those who have reached great heights of “success” by society’s definition are human and human connection is vital to all of us.
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you too, can become great.” – Mark Twain
Keep Your Intentions and Expectations to Yourself
Within your lifetime there are going to be many people that will doubt you. Doubt your greatness, doubt your dreams, and most importantly doubt your ability to achieve them. This doubt stems from those individuals own inability to see the greatness within themselves. It is not your concern. Set your intentions by writing down specific goals and keep them close to your chest. Know in your heart of hearts your truth and remind yourself of your path daily with affirmations that speak to the present moment.
“A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it.” – Alexandre Dumas
Keep a Positive Outlook on Life
You do not have total control of what happens in life. However, you do have total control of your reaction. Happiness, joy, contentment, these are all chosen states. Now I’m not saying it’s easy to maintain a smile 24/7. What I am saying is that when you have control of your inner environment, should something seem challenging or difficult in the outer environment it won’t cause your state of mind to waver too much. Practice gratitude, meditate for guidance and keep a list of go-to energy shifters such as your favorite comedy skit, an upbeat playlist or a motivational TED Talk in your back pocket to uplift your mood when you need it.
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.” – Lou Holtz
Keep Yourself in the Present
I’ve always been told that I would be “someone someday”. I felt grateful for these individuals ability to see into my future but I always thought this compliment was odd. Aren’t I someone now? What day is someday? Often as entrepreneurs we make the mistake of speaking of ourselves in the future. “Someday I will have…next year I’ll be…” This mindset can set us up for failure as we are constantly looking to attain something that seems just beyond our reach in time and space. We focus so intently on what we know will come that we don’t enjoy the chapters that make up our lives before “someday”. Even more disappointing is that once we arrive to our “someday” in this mindset the moment can’t possibly live up to the picture in our heads so we create another “someday” and the cycle starts all over again. There is only the now to concern ourselves with. There is only I AM. Focus on I AM, not I WILL BE and your existence will shape itself accordingly.
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it” – Eckhart Tolle
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